Shot of the moon using my Nikon D3300 and a Nikkor 55-300mm lens, touched up with Lightroom by Adobe
Mania, depression, and delusions. What can pills help, and what do you need to watch out for yourself? (poem to follow this blog)
So it is the worst time of the year for just about everyone. Kids have to go back to school after just a 2-week taste of freedom and being lavished with candy canes and gifts by family. People who work in sectors like trades find that most of their customers spent all their money on Christmas and there is a big slowdown. The worst part? Suicides. Some may think that Christmas is the worst for suicides, but I have uncovered some information that may prove that January is the worst month for suicides. I can see why. I have been doing well in my recovery from mental illness for some time now, I was able to take some college courses, I took a University course last year and actually finished it. I have set up jobs and public appearances and have been working for the schizophrenia society. I sometimes wonder if I’ve been a little manic. I haven’t had delusional thinking much, but I have been finding myself increasingly troubled with sleeping memories of being in the hospital, likely because I now live in an apartment building rather than a house and I never liked the people who used to come around in the hospital and shine a flashlight in your eyes to see if you were sleeping. The flashlight almost always woke me up.
What I have been noticing is the early signs of depression creeping up. I don’t know about other places, but where I live there is only about 8 hours of daylight this time of year and sometimes lately if I have nothing to do or if it is oppressively cold outside (as it almost always is, -22 right now) I will sleep all night and then sleep all day. Then, at times like this when by all rights I should be going back to sleep, I get up and work on my writing. Today I was taken away from this pursuit because I learned the moon was full, and so I hauled out my camera and took the above picture among others. I don’t really know what to do about my depression. It has to do with a lot of things I am sure, including the diminished sunlight, the fact that I have a lot of time on my hands and that I have been isolating myself too much. My doctor has offered to increase my anti-depressant and I think I will call tomorrow to get an appointment and do so.
I am also thinking that with everything that has been happening, it is time to bite the bullet and go and see a counselor. For months I have been looking at the wall in the office of my apartment building and there is a list of free counselors there. What it all comes down to is taking care of myself. If I leave things too long I will pay the consequences. Just like needing a dentist or an optometrist, and going to them before you are in pain or blind, I really want to try therapy. From what I understand, therapy can be very effective for people with mental illnesses, though it is important that one stabilize their condition with proper medication before going to it. One of the things that makes me feel worried about what has been going on is my departed mother. When she died at 63 she still hadn’t gotten a handle on her mental illness and it was very severe. My mom had done so many things, from being a credit union manager to nearly getting a full scholarship to University. She tried so very hard and kept getting beaten down by one thing or another. I can see my mom in my brother and sister and myself in many ways. It really was a sad thing that her life had gone so poorly for her, and even at the end she struggled with her medications, moods and psychosis. One of the things she did back then was to see a psychologist and I learned to my surprise that she often talked about her mother, who had passed away about 20 years before my mom did. In many ways I feel pretty lucky that there are medications that help me deal with my own psychosis and mood swings, and do a pretty good job of it. With that, I will leave you with a poem and wish you all another week or so of good health and happiness, which is about the amount of time that will pass before I blog again.
Last Best Chance
My love I am always thinking of you
And how I have feelings that are true
I just don’t know how to say them out loud
In the dark deep night my mind begins to race
As I worry, fret and pace
Nothing seems to please me anymore
The first time I ever saw your face
Even my loneliness could never erase
The loveliness I saw deep inside your eyes
Each day that passes finds me here
With no friends or lover near
The only one I have to blame is me
There were many loves in my younger days
And I pursued them in my own weird ways
Never understanding I could ever end up alone
Plus I had so many true, close friends
On whom I always thought I could depend
But hard times took most of those away from me
I’ve been desperate and depressed
Sought forgiveness and went to be blessed
But found out it came down to not loving you enough
From the first day my life had begun
Fate made you the only one
I could have ever asked to be my true soul mate
So I ask if you could read these simple words
And not feel sad, scared or disturbed
I know you care for me just as I care for you
Things happen to each and every one
But you were always so loving and fun
Please forgive and take me in your arms again
I won’t make any promises to you
Except that each day will feel happy, fresh and new
Please tell me if you will, I just can’t wait
Too many years have already passed
You’ve always been the first and last
Give your love to me we’re each other’s last best chance
Scroll down for today’s blog if you want to skip today’s photo and poem. the photo below is a black and white I took of a bedsheet after throwing it up in the air
January One, 2017; 5:15am
Outside is still and dark, silence fills the land
On this day hope begins anew with New Year plans
We gathered in the cold to greet this year
With promises to set aside unhappiness, anger and fear
As the new day dawns, I promise to all of you
That there is not one thing that I promise to do
Other than put my friends and family always first
Through the lazy easy happy times and through the worst
I do know that many challenges will come to us
I just ask that you do your best and always trust
That our good times will greatly overwhelm the bad
And that you must call me any time you’re feeling sad
This day is also set aside to recall the past
None of our futures are singularly cast
Each of us together or apart can change our fate
If we just let go of all that bitterness and hate
Anger and anxiety consumes us from within
Worse than not receiving forgiveness for our sins
It hurts us as it drives those we love away
It can cause us to end up alone one day
Family is so very necessary for us all
Please don’t forget those great words, “divided we fall”
And please care for the elders in your community
One day we’ll be among them, you and me
A love still dwells in my heart for everyone
Not just at year’s end but with each setting sun
For all the friends and lovers who shared my hurts and joys
For those who taught me love, gentleness and poise
And I could not pass without saying something for
The teachers who opened so many doors
From my little niece who taught me how to care
To the instructors who wisdom followed me everywhere
I now vow to all of you to never stop
Looking past the little challenges, striving for the top
And also, I give a special word to those who wear a uniform and fight
I want to thank you all for risking your lives for what we know is right
Well, I haven’t got a lot to say regarding mental health. I have been experiencing anxiety lately and it has been working negatively on my stomach. As a result, I felt nausea last night and took a couple of gravol which helped the bad feeling and helped me sleep and even relax a bit. I got up and wrote a long letter to a friend I have been relying on way too much for our own good. She is this very kind and caring young woman and we have met for lunch a few times and I actually started to think we might go out, but I discovered she had no such intentions. She is so nice though that she has decided to keep me as a friend which I am very glad of. The problem that’s been happening lately is that she has been busy and I have been short of things to do since everything is shut down for the holidays and I live alone (yes, big mistake for someone with a mental illness!) I contacted her a couple of times and my anxiety started making up all these ideas. First I thought I was bothering her, then I wrote back hoping to make her less worried about me, then she sent me a quick text and I thought that she was ‘weirded’ out about me doing that. I keep stumbling over my words and it isn’t helping that my social skills and confidence are diminished from living alone. I still have a good friend in my life who I talk to a lot, but I would hate to lose this other person as a friend. I am kind of wondering if I need to up my dose of anti-anxiety medication despite the possible dependancy and side effects. I hope someone out there can identify with this and maybe take something out of it they can use. I wish there was a support group out there that was free and ongoing for neurotics like me.
I have always looked at birds with a sense of wonder. For a large part of my life I wanted to fly, to be a pilot. Actually, I wouldn’t have minded being a bird either. Imagine not having to work, to play with the air currents and the people that throw food at you. Now, being a person with a mental illness, I think of the freedom birds have, how far they go in just one season and the carefree life they lead. I’m often reminded of skating when I see birds, maybe that is why so many youths in Canada think so much about hockey–you glide around, you bond with your friends and take up alliances, your team against the world. It’s all something meant for us not to sit around and let the cold get to us, or to let anything get to us. Hockey gives a person so many things, even riches beyond belief if one is good enough. To me though, it has always been flying. I will never forget being 12 and being strapped into the cockpit of a glider in what was then Namao Air Force Base. When that glider lifted off the ground my reaction was to laugh myself sick. When I found out I couldn’t fly anymore because of my mental illness, I was devastated.
Flying was my work and my play. But there were growing problems with it. One of them was that I found myself having horrible nightmares about crashing a large jet and killing everyone on board. When I started driving, I soon learned the importance of being a safe and sober driver because of the responsibiity one carries to others. In a way I’m glad I stopped flying when I did. But if I wanted any kind of lasting mental health, I couldn’t just sit around all day and watch TV or do crossword puzzles. I may not run out of money (though I often did) but I soon ran out of people in my life. I thought that would be the idea situation: time to read, time to play video games, time to study new subjects. I couldn’t do it though, I got so bored and lonely and depressed that at times I was near suicide. I remember trying to explain my situation to a friend who lived on welfare and collected bottles for a living, he often whined about how he had no women in his life and I told him that he needed to get a life so he could have a life to talk to these women about. A very trite and simple answer, but it was the truth as best as I could lay it out for him.
I have a lot of problem with nights. For anyone who reads this at four in the morning, I would say to them that they should rest and worry about the crap I have to tell them at a regular time. I think my own night owl syndrome came from me working late and night shifts all through school, then being a security guard for a great number of years. I liked the quiet, but I hated the depressing social life. I liked reading and playing Nintendo games but I was slipping further from normalcy and reality as I went on.
There is something I am sure very few people will have the patience to read here which is good because I want to share a theory and be honest with it. It seems that you can change some of the “programming” of your subconscious mind by severely abusing your conscious mind. As a teen, I could never stop thinking about this young woman I met at summer camp. I thought about her constantly, every time I was in the city she lived in I hoped I would see her, every time I met a new girl I imagined all the qualities she had that was like this girl. Then years later I got sick and had delusional thoughts about her and my subconcious mind went on a field day, giving me all kinds of ideas that came from seeemingly nowhere, but after years of thought and self-analysis it seems they came from the pain I was putting myself through. I wasn’t very good to myself in high school, I slept little, ate poorly, worked all the time and drank whenever it was offered. All these things plus something of an obsession and I was gearing myself up to get sick. I even did things like that later in life, earlier in my time on this earth, I often did these things thinking I needed to be punished, which is possibly a side effect of my depression which was severe when I was an adolescent. I hate to philosophize though because I really have no qualifications, just a better understanding of my own thoughts now that I have explored them through thought and meditation for a long time.
It is almost time to say goodnight to this blog. I haven’t been doing much writing on this site because I am working on a new book among other projects. I want to say that if you are in pain, talk to someone. If you are skinny or fat or boring or whatever, remind yourself that you are a special human being who needs care and love and that you deserve to have good in your life. And if you feel you have a mental illness, reach out. Not just once, not just to a teacher, find someone you trust and find the help you need. Sleep enough, eat enough, and take a break when things get to be too much.
A View of Downtown Edmonton From Outside My New Apartment
Hi, I wanted to talk a little about disability benefits today. This is a senstive topic for many reasons. One of the big ones, as I know a good deal of my readers are from the United States, is that people on Welfare or even Social Security Benefits are looked down upon. The tax burden on Americans is great, plus the cost of health care and this ends up worsening the problem from both ends. People with mental illnesses are faced with costs that can’t be managed for medications, hospital treatment, doctors, housing and on and on. The way the American system seems to be set up to work is that each person is responsible for themselves, and when someone has a severe mental illness, this can be just about impossible. I can recall being in the US and simply knowing a guy who applied for foodstamps and then discussing it with an older gentleman and he literally stopped talking to me after we had travelled together for 3 days. It seemed a harsh judgement and pretty ignorant, but this is the way many people down there think and there are valid reasons for this attitude. I feel very fortunate to live in Canada and to have a disability benefit program plus health care and on top of that I get heavily subsidized housing and free fitness and leisure access. It almost seems like paradise, but it definitely has its drawbacks. One of them is that if I do go out and get a job, I have to limit my income to less than a minimum wage job or lose my benefits completely. With the cost of psychiatric medications this would be a staggering blow. At the present point I’m at I don’t honestly know if I could hold down a full-time job for any length of time, but I also don’t want to live the rest of my life with no improvements in my standard of living.
Some 27 years ago I found myself in a homeless shelter, mentally ill and penniless due to prolonged hospital admissions. There were very few options left for me and so I made an application to join the military. This would have provided me health benefits, an income, and a purpose in my life. My application process was interrupted by a fight with my dad that sent me to the shelter, and I decided that since I was working towards something that I could do something I thought was unthinkable-I would apply for welfare benefits. I will never forget the words of the social worker when I applied, as she looked up from the forms she was filling out for me, “Don’t get caught in the trap.” I think she meant more along the lines of the trap of drug abuse or alcoholism and circle of poverty. But whatever she meant, due to my mental illness, I was never able to join the military, and I later failed a concerted attempt to complete commercial pilot school, and was unable to hold down a full-time job. For me the trap wasn’t in getting money for nothing, it was in that every time I tried to do something, either I was told I was ineligible as a person with a mental illness, or that I would try and do a job set before me and the incredible pressure of working up to acceptable standards was simply too much. I was caught in a trap, and in some ways I still am.
Things are improving in my life though, I have found a part-time job that I am good at and that I enjoy. I give talks to students about mental illness for the Schizophrenia Society, and I have written a number of books. The books give me little income, but together I manage to put food on the table. One thing I often think about is that despite that numerous times I went over the brink into madness, I now have a good life with stable housing and income and something to do, but I have a lot of regret that I have no life partner. This is another trap that people with mental illnesses have to be aware of, the isolation factor, and it has a lot to do with receiving benefits. If you don’t have to force yourself to get up and get out and look for work, you may just sit inside and watch TV and never care if you have friends or a significant other, and years will fly past and a person will have nothing but regrets. One of the reasons that people end up isolated like this besides recieving benefits is that there is a lot of stigma surrounding mental illness. One thing with me is that I used to try and hide the fact that I have a diagnosed illness, but now I am very forward about it. So many people, when you stop trying to hide things, will tell you they suffer, they have a family member or close friend that suffers.
Anyhow, a lot of that is beside the point I was trying to make. How do you avoid the trap that going on benefits causes? You may not be able to, but you can make your life as full as possible. I always like to say that the first thing you need to do with a mentally ill person is get them proper treatment, proper medications. Then you need to take some therapy that will help you understand yourself. After that, a life skills course or Wellness Recovery Action Plan course can help a great deal. From there, even if it just means taking one course, get some school under your belt. While you are doing this, find ways to keep fit and healthy, in what you do with your body and what you put in it. Quit smoking if you smoke. Then, try and find work, even part-time. Spend as little as possible, and save, and keep taking your medications, work on your mental health on an ongoing basis, and before you know it, you may forget you ever were sick. It isn’t an easy process, and it isn’t a simple one, but it is one that is worthwhile. I like to keep telling people that you need to have goals and direction, specific ones. “I want a bachelor’s degree in six years.” would be an excellent one. “I want to be stabilized and back working in two years, earning enough to drive a car and rent my own apartment.” is another good one. Once you have goals, you have a direction to move in, and if you are having a hard time, you can end up feeling so much better about yourself from just working a little bit each day towards your goal. Take care Dear Readers!
Photograph of an Edmonton Morning From the Tip of the River Valley
Well, I have been trying to keep busy lately, and seem to be doing well. As many may know, I moved into my own apartment from a group home three months ago. There are a lot of things that seem to be going really well. I have just about finished my very first University course, Humanities 101 which has been great. We have gone over a lot of different information from a visit to the University’s Observatory to a special class with a drama instructor. In many ways, I feel it has helped me not only get back into the groove that I used to enjoy so much about school, but it has also helped me to sharpen my critical thinking skills. The main problem right now is that I am feeling a little isolated not having roommates around to talk to or bounce ideas off.
There have been a lot of really good things going on, though. My friend Richard Van Camp, who is a bestselling author and film producer seems to have found me a publisher for my latest short story collection. After a few final edits, I will be sending my manuscript off likely early next week. There are a few other really great pieces of news in my life, one is that the Edmonton Public Library has chosen to spotlight me as a writer in 2017 for three months, likely in the second or third quarter of the year. They will have me plan two events and advertise me on their website among other cool stuff. And then I will also be facilitating a writing class in the New Year, possibly more than one of them. I think that will be just about all I will be able to handle.
At the moment I am nursing a sore back, and I took some muscle relaxants to help me deal with it. I had hoped the pills would help me sleep but they don’t seem to be working that way. I am having so much trouble sleeping that I am near to the point of asking for sleeping pills, but I have found that sleeping pills affect a person’s memory and that is something that is just about essential to my writing. There are more options, I have tried to exercise more but it seems that can make me sleep less. Among the other options is to eliminate naps and cut off caffeine at a certain time. These strategies have worked for me before, but when you live alone it can be difficult to follow routines. I guess I am a bit worried that moving out was a mistake, but there really were a lot of useless rules in the place I came from. I still get a little support day to day from the staff at the building I moved into, it often becomes easy though to fall into the trap of just not leaving the house. I have been combatting that by taking extended long walks for groceries or to malls and other errands. The result is that I feel better in general, but my feet and back seem to be taking kind of a pounding. I thought I would like to walk to a medical clinic in the morning to see about getting something for my back and maybe some advice on sleep remedies but walking four miles for something like that seems almost self-defeating.
One thing that is good is that I seem to have been getting out enough to keep my social skills in order. Yesterday I gave a presentation for the Schizophrenia Society and it seemed to go really well. I enjoy that job a lot, it is just about the perfect thing for me. I go out to a school or meeting place, talk for half an hour and get paid for three hours. It is hard to have been used to the money I made setting up stages but that job was taking a toll on me.
Something that has been on my mind is my brother, the musician/chef/philosopher. He had a herniated disc in his back that needed surgery and is in terrible pain and now a doctor has told him he may have another herniated disc. The first surgery was awful, he had to wait six months and could do almost nothing the whole time, it really kills me to see him in so much pain. Sometimes all a person can do is keep a smile on their face and pray, though.
So I don’t really know what coping skills I gave any of you today. I have been finding that meditation has been pretty helpful in me keeping my head screwed on straight. I would like to go back to going to mass, I don’t know what has been keeping me from it. All in all, actually, things are as good as could be expected. I have a birthday coming next week and I am going to spend it with friends, I don’t really need to worry much about having things to do or money for food or anything. I still find myself a little worried and a little sad at times. I suppose nothing can ever be perfect. I apologize that there is no poem for today, I haven’t felt much like writing poetry. I should get down to some though since I will be teaching how to write it again soon. Take care dear readers, and say a prayer for my brother if you have the strength.
Do you have trouble sleeping despite being on strong medications to help you rest? There are ways to treat insomnia that can help you a great deal. It depends partially on what your diagnosis is. I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, which means I have to watch out for highs and lows in my mood, and, of course, need medication. I find that often in either extreme of mood I have trouble sleeping. Insomnia can be very difficult to deal with, and when you are already struggling to hold down a job and perhaps suffering from a mental illness, it gets even worse. I think one of the best ways to deal with insomnia is, first of all, to try and eliminate napping. This is something I find difficult because I often have a lot of time on my hands on days when I don’t have work or class. I don’t like watching TV much so I either have to force myself to work on something, or nap and end up not being able to sleep at night. It takes discipline, and maybe it will take another part-time job or hobby but napping has to go.
One thing I found that can help a great deal with not being able to sleep is to exercise. Many people don’t have the benefit I do of a nearby fitness facility with pool and weight room, but there is still a way to do push-ups, go for walks, join a Yoga class, or if you want to try Yoga, simply get a mat and a video you can work with at home. Something I have to be very aware of with this solution is that sometimes exercise can send me into a manic state. People with mental health issues other than bipolar may face such things as worsening symptoms of paranoia or visual/auditory hallucinations. Talk to your Psychiatrist and perhaps they can work out something that will help you get out more, perhaps a medication that helps calm you down or some group therapy that will help you transition to form your own connections in your community.
Another problem that those with a mental health issue face with regards to sleeplessness/insomnia is that one of the worst things you can do is to get your biological clock out of ‘whack.’ When you go to bed at different times or sleep all day, you are making it hard for your body to know when it should shut down and rest. One of the best strategies to coping with this problem is to try and go to sleep when the sun goes down, and, no matter how much coffee it takes (but not after 6:00pm) to get out of bed in the morning, do your best to get up early. Add this to not napping, exercising or socializing during the day and soon you will improve one of the key problems people with a mental illness face.
Find Love But Love Yourself
The past is a cruel cruel mistress
Who sometimes will not let one go
I want to say though I’m embarrassed
Some important things to know
One can’t just let all of their memories
Haunt them through all of their days
Each person’s time on earth is limited
And right now my son, you are in your prime
Watch for the ones who are most lovely
So good-looking you can hardly cope
Those women have their choice of men
And many of them will choose to love a few
Open wide your eyes my son
Let each sunrise find you blessed
Feel the renewing breeze, the cool, cool air
Give thanks to the hand that feeds your soul
Of all the things I’ve told you
There is only one you must bury in your heart
Love only those that love you back
Or be sad and broken; torn apart
Perhaps a few times as my youth slipped past
I could have had the woman of my dreams
But things do not always work that way
Respect and love whoever you end up with
Dreaming of the perfect one
Left me no closer to the truth
That as I dreamed life slipped away
And I missed out on most of my youth
So many happy carefree times
Spent in play or traveling
I had no idea there was more joy
In the feelings your own family can bring
Employment and Stress Blog With Poem at the End of Post
How Much Employment is Too Much? How Do You Know When You Reach Your Limit?
Please Scroll Past Today’s Blog if You Want To Just Read The Poem of the day!
Well, I would like to talk about our limitations with regards to employment. This is a very difficult question for me because I was raised in a family of people who worked very hard. As you may have figured from my picture above as well, in my formative years (12-15) I was in an Air Cadet Squadron and there was a strong emphasis on work ethic and conservatism. I did well in Cadets, I loved that I was rewarded for working hard, and often out-working my peers if I could. But time and stress started to hit me and when I got a little older I was influenced by someone a little more left-wing. It was a person who did believe in hard work, he just hated it.
When I was younger, I had a lot of jobs despite that I was likely a young person suffering from a mental illness. Even before I was very old I worked in my dad’s shop, I delivered papers, I got my sister to pay me to do her chores (she had a job and made good money as a waitress in a steak house). My plan was to have a huge comic book collection that I would use to finance my University Education. I was 10. Later in life I wore myself down to where I would spend most of the money I made from successive jobs on things like stereos, computer games, cars, motorcycles. I think it was a mistake. There is no way to tell how things may have worked out for me, but if I had taken the energy I put into buying those things and put them into my studies, I could have easily gotten scholarships. One of my big problems was that I didn’t know anything about scholarships or University, having no family members who had gone there, and that I was digging an early grave for myself surviving on pizza and coca-cola and getting so little sleep I turned sleeping in class to an art form.
At the age of 18 I don’t know what happened, I don’t know what to tell you. It had been a long and difficult winter, I had been fighting with my dad almost daily, he had tried a couple of times to kick me out of the house and no one seemed to care at all about me, and I was soon to have nowhere to live meaning I would lose all my property (including the comic books). Added to that, a close friend committed suicide which devastated me, and for some reason I began to think that I could develop a new way of thinking and acting that would make people like me and turn me into some kind of hero. This was the point when I started to slip away from reality. Oh yes, I forgot to mention that I was working a job where I was getting screwed over for a promotion among mostly men twice my age. This is where the word ‘psychosis’ comes in handy. ‘Psychosis’ involves a loss of contact with reality. Slowly I slipped into it, and soon all kinds of crazy ideas went through my head. I ended up in the hospital and when I got out, all there was to help me to live was social services/welfare. I felt so wronged by society, I took out my anger on employers, on my family. It was a mess.
There is much more to talk about on this topic, but basically, I want to say that if I had seen the signs of stress coming, if I had been able to quit school and my job and be honest with my family about what was going on in my head and get help, there is a real likelihood I could have avoided numerous hospital stays. But I don’t want to think like that. I do want to think like my life has ended up well. I have some incredible friends and an amazing life. I just kind of wish that I can write these blogs and that someone out there can see some of these signs in themselves and be able to avoid some of the terrible things that happened to me. It really is no fun having a breakdown and ending up in the hospital. Most of the time you go through it, then recover and just get sick again, often whether you take your medication or not. I see it often, and it is incredibly sad. Some of the best advice I heard a person in this situation get was to a former employer, Bill MacPhee, who was told, “If you don’t find something to do you’re going to be in and out of the hospital the rest of your life.” Bill wrote a book, he speaks at conferences all over the place and he has a couple of companies that serve people with mental health issues. I hope you enjoy the poem below!
Edmonton, Fall 2016
The days of cold and wet have come to be
We will soon lost upon a snowy white frozen sea
Although the summer this year was a little longer
The power of the frozen north is stronger
I can’t tell you why I love this place, my home
I know that it appears I’m always alone
Up here the icy cold cleanses clean it all
And up here I haven’t got quite so far to fall
On the rainy coast out West I get sick and cough
In the desert heat of Arizona I would be lost
It comes down to being free, and what is best for me
I love this crisp cold place can’t you see
Not long ago, it’s true, I flew very far away
And to be honest, a part of me wanted to stay
But here I have those I love and my simple life
And a best friend who once could have been my wife
Maybe it is wrong of me to be afraid of letting go
But I’m happy here, and happy to let life unfold this slow
I also want to be here for my dad who soon may pass away
Because I know it shall be my turn one day
There is something special when you live somewhere a while
I feel re-energized with each kind hello and smile
I also like being able to volunteer and serve the poor
There is no other way my life could possibly mean more
And so I spend my days with those I care for near
And spend my nights writing my poetry right here
When life is lived to the fullest there is no more fear
That when I’m gone no one will shed a tear
And perhaps if what the bible says is true
When I am forever gone I will be born anew
In a place that was meant for a poet like me
Floating on a cloud in a perfect joyful sea